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My little girl

is an extreme



At just a few months old, my mom and I would joke that she needed to join Pacifiers Anonymous.

Her Nuk. Her Binky. Her Paci. Her “Babbo.”

She neeeeeds it.

She’s doing better about going without it during the day. But still, once it’s in her sight, there’s no coming between her and sucking satisfaction.

How long do I let this go on before seeking intervention?

14 thoughts on “Addiction

  1. Kate loves her paci too. She doesn't seem to neeeeeed it, but I love how when she gets "stressed out" (trying to do something and can't) she'll stop, put paci in, and then be empowered to try again. It's like her can of spinach!

  2. As a very wise friend once said to me, kids rarely go to school with pacifiers in their mouths. She'll soon want to talk more than she wants to use the pacifier. It's all downhill after that.

    I'm counting down the hours now until I see her again.I feel blessed that you chronicle her babyhood, because I feel like I know her even though I rarely see my little niece Libbie.

  3. My kids – Killy especially – were paci addicts. Their pediatrician, dentist, and Killy's speech therapist were all fine with it as long as after two years old they only got it at nighttime. A good way to gently wean is to make the rule that the paci is only for the bed – its boring to lay in bed all the time, even if you get a glorious paci! I had one friend who tied her daughter's paci to a big stuffed animal, so her daughter had to haul it around with her if she wanted the paci. I will admit that we finally got rid of all pacis (they only got them at night by this point) when Killian was 3.5 and Ellie was 2.

  4. I am having the same trouble with Aaron although he does only get it at night. He is so attached though that if he wakes up without he screams! Makes for some interesting in the middle of the night conversations with us!

  5. LOL I think this is every parents question
    Danica has finally kicked the habbit but not with out a fight at first we just told her she could only have it when she was in her bed which worked well but she was not going to go to bed with out it. We finally got her to give it up when my brother and his wife had a new baby a few months ago we told her paci's are for babies and so we should send her's to the new baby and luck was on side and she bought it !!!! from that day on she wanted nothing to do with it however she still reminds us weekly " I big girl I give suc, suc to new baby"

  6. My ds2 is 2.5 and I've gotten to the point when he asks for it I very non-chalantly tell him that "sure you can have your nuk, you just have to go in your crib." He hands it right back to me. We let him have it at bedtime. Ds1 threw his in the trash on is 4th bday telling it "Bye Bye Nuk." Orthodontist has told us it makes no difference teeth wise and as your daughter grows some of her molars, she may need that sucking to relieve some of the pain… this stuff can all get so stressful, I think we tend to make it that way when we become reactionary.. this too shall pass!

  7. Haha! Becca was a binky addict for the first 2-3 months, and then she swore them off in favor of the two finger finger-suck. I have ultrasound photos of her doing that, the therapist in the NICU told me it is "self-soothing," which explains why she does it when she's upset. Our children are destined for braces, I believe…

  8. My daughter started out growing hers between a year and about 15 months(?). She was pretty out-of-sight, out-of-mind about the paci, so I started keeping it out of sight more often. As she gets older she won't need it as much. We only uses ours now for sleep and when we're on air planes. I'll try to wean it from sleep around her 2nd birthday.

    On the other hand, I sucked my thumb until I was 8- so at least you can take her paci away. 😉

  9. This is the biggest thing parents ask about you would not be surprised. Especially when they find out I am a nanny.

    First, be careful about how much time she has her paci in, due to the fact that it is pushing on her teeth and that will cost LOTS of money to fix when she is older.

    Secondly, she will begin to talk with it in her mouth and that is HORRIBLE for language development.

    The best advice I give parents is to only have it when they are sleeping or in the car. These 2 places are they need them for comfort. Be sure that she is taking it out after you get her up from bed and having her place it in her bed. Th sae with in her car seat or your purse.
    Check her paci's to make sure it doesn't have a hole in it. If it does throw it out and don't replace it. You will begin to have less and less.

  10. Isabella loved her binky too! When she was two she was much better about it but still "NEEDED" it to go to sleep and if she was hurt or upset. As she approached her third birthday (and was going to be starting preschool in a the fall) we told her that on her birthday she needed to pack them all up and leave them for the Binky Fairy who would come get them and give them to new babys who needed them.

    For a while she said she wasn't having a birthday and wasn't turning three but then warmed up to the idea. It didn't hurt that Casey was going to have a new baby girl soon and that she could ask the fairy to give her special binkys to her. (Which was actually given to her and Isabella later saw her with it.)

    Quite frankly I had my doubts as to how this would go over, but it worked graat. She rarely really asked for a binky. The truth was she really didn't need them anymore by the time she was getting close to three it was just the security of it. Part of the trick was to scour the house (her's, Nana's and Grandma's to make sure that there were none anywhere to be found. I was amazing where we found them – in toys, drawers, under cushions, etc., etc.) to make sure there would be none "found" by her following the Binky Fairy's pick-up.

    The first couple of nights were a little tough getting to bed but Kristin just compensated with extra hugs, stories and even laying down with her, but then she was fine.

    The truth of the matter is you can tell when they don't "need" them anymore. Sometimes it's just a matter of getting rid of them and sometimes you have to be creative in the purpose of them disappearing, but since they are really ready (even if they don't know it) it won't be hard.

    Don't stress the small stuff like binkys in the mean time. Enjoy their happiness.

  11. I'm right there with you on this one. Evan, my oldest was done with his right at a year. No problems. I still remember sitting w/him on the couch the night he spit it out & threw it. I was actually nervous about going to a store w/him – what would I do if he started crying!!! But Megan on the other hand is 15 mths & LOVES her paci. She starts bitting on toys if she doesn't have it … I may have to work harder w/her to lose it:(

  12. I was having major problems with my son's binky use; well actually it was more along the lines of a binky addiction!! My friend absolutely raved about the cut method, and all of the psychology behind it. She found it on , which is great that it was also free. We went with it and OMGosh… worked so beautifully for my son with NO tantrums, not even one! Thank you God. Five days later he did not want anything to do with his binky. What a relief it was to all of us to finally be done with those darn binkies. Highly recommended! I am also interested in others experiences…. Bella

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