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This Friday, I will officially have been a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM) for two months. It’s certainly been an adventure already and not what I expected. This week, I thought I’d share the Top Ten Surprises about Staying at Home. For me, at least.
1. I’m still not a good housekeeper. Guess it’s one of those things. I thought when I got married, I would suddenly be a very clean person. Then when I had kids. And then when I became a SAHM. Well, nope. I still have to push myself to want to clean pretty much anything. If my freelance career ever takes off, MAID is at the top of the list of things I want! Until then, I really am working on it.
2. I don’t have lots of free time. When you’re on the other side of the fence, you think, “Oh, I’ll have TONS of free time when I’m not working!” Free time being time to relax and spend on myself. Um, nope. Blogging, freelance, and cleaning eat up most any time I have while Libbie is asleep. When she’s awake, there is no relaxation and no computer. There is only chasing of the toddler.
3. Libbie can push all of my buttons. I think this is probably a mix of us being together all the time and her reaching true toddlerhood. The last week and a half has been very hard with her. But when times are good, she’s very sweet and loving. It’s just not all fun and giggles!
4. There are days I think I can’t leave the house because I have too much laundry to do. Or cleaning. Or cooking. It makes me laugh that this thought even enters my head when two months ago I had a full-time job outside the home plus a commute! And a social life, since I had friends and all.
5. I am not stir-crazy. Mr. V really doubted my ability to be at home all the time without going insane. I’ve always been a little stir-crazy even having a few days off from work or something. But it’s not like I sit around with nothing to do! Occasionally I do get tired of the house and we go to the mall’s play area or the children’s museum–but most of the time I’m pretty content to be at home.
6. I love being able to cook things that take a long time. Homemade broth and bread have been on my to-do list for a long time, but I just haven’t had time at night to wait out the rising or simmering times.
7. I like having my bed made. My mother will attest that I have never, ever made my bed on a regular basis. And I still didn’t when I got married. But I’ve found that I love snuggling into a made bed at night and it doesn’t take that much effort to head in the bedroom at some point in the day and throw the covers up. It looks pretty and is more comfy!
8. I don’t know when to serve dinner. My dad always got home about 6 o’clock when I was growing up and we ate dinner right as he arrived pretty much every day. Mr. V usually gets home around 5-5:30 and has eaten a big lunch. So even though I feel like I should have dinner ready when he comes home, it’s not really a good time for him to eat. But then if it’s too late, Libbie starts to get really tired and hungry. It’s a conundrum I haven’t solved.
9. Sometimes I find myself taking to Mr. V about grocery prices or doing laundry. I feel boring. It’s weird not to have work to talk about.
10. I get mad at Libbie and yell sometimes. I have a quick temper and I hate it. I want to be a very intentional parent but I let my tongue get the best of me, often. I HATE yelling and know it’s not a solution. But I do it, sometimes.
If you’re a SAHM, what have the surprises been for you?